Tips to improve your sex life

MAINTAIN APPROPRIATE BODY WEIGHT

This is one of the most common cause for poor sexual health. Being overweight predisposes you to diabetes and raises lipid levels and make you look unattractive. Stamina is also less so you tend to tire easily. Obesity cause obstruction of blood flow to genitals at the time of arousal, causing ED in males and Vaginal Dryness in females. 30-40 Minutes brisk walking in morning, adequate protein intake, very restricted sugar consumption and controlled fats in diet help you in this regard. It help to build your stamina, reduce stress and improve blood circulation. Some studies indicate that mild exercise just before sex is likely to improve your performance in bed.

Obesity- Each 5 kg of overweight reduces the blood supply to penile vessels by 5-10%, causing reduced hardness and less pleasure. Your stamina is also reduced so you tend to tire easily. Sex is a game to be enjoyed best by fit partners. So avoid putting on extra kilos on your waist line.

Lead an active life. 30-45 minutes of moderate exercise will boost your testosterone level, improve fitness and tone up the perineal muscles.

DON’T BE OBSESSED WITH ‘SIZE’

It is amazing to see men of all ages getting crazy for a treatment to get the size and thickness of their organ increased. There are numerous modes available on net and print media, each claiming to get you very funny sizes. It is amusing to see people in middle and old ages also, desirous to have a bigger one despite a good sex life. The fact is that bigger size does not guarantee a satisfactory sex life. I see a lot of men with big penis facing ED. They have never talked to their partners for her satisfaction level but watching porn movies and stories of friends with big organs claiming to be great lovers motivates them to be unattainable. Fear of failure to satisfy the partner also contributes. Never believe your friends when they brag about their sexual powers. No one will disclose their problems of bed room in public and people love to make tall claims about their masculinity. Don’t pay heed to them and have confidence in your own ability. Watching porn is like watching any other movie, the performers are well trained models with obvious selection criteria who perform as the director says. These are stunts performed by artists to titillate you. You never try to jump down a building from 10th floor because a hero has done that. So try to understand, real life is different than reel life. The fact is – you need only 2.5 inches of erect penis to have a satisfactory sex life. Don’t try these fancy medicines and aids as they may be extremely dangerous for your general and sexual health. I have seen many young men with injuries to genitals, landing for emergency treatment after using such devices.

KEEP AWAY FROM DRUGS

There are numerous myths regarding use of drugs abuse to increase “sex power”. One of my patients tried a rave party, tried cocaine and number of other drugs to??? Enjoyed that night. The result was, he had no erection and had severe depression. Alcohol does not improve your performance but causes ED, sooner than later because it is a CNS depressant. The biggest enemy is TOBACCO IN ANY FORM. It is the most common substance abused and lethal for your Sexuality. Tobacco causes narrowing of blood vessels in addition of sudden spasm, resulting in ED in men and Vaginal Dryness in females, causing painful sex. There are lot of awareness campaigns regarding tobacco causing cancer and heart diseases, but its relation with sexual health is poorly acknowledged. The good news is that there is a fairly effective medicine available to quit smoking and the damage caused by it is reversible if you quit before 40 yrs.

SEXUAL HUMOR

One night a man and a woman were both at a bar knocking back a few beers. They start talking and come to realize that they’re both doctors. After about an hour, the man says to the woman, Hey. How about if we sleep together tonight. No strings attached. It’ll just be one night of fun. The woman doctor agrees to it. So they go back to her place and he goes in the bedroom. She goes in the bathroom and starts scrubbing up like she’s about to go into the operating room. She scrubs for a good 10 minutes. Finally she goes in the bedroom and they have sex for an hour or so. Afterwards, the man says to the woman, You’re a surgeon, aren’t you? Yeah, how did you know? The man says, I could tell by the way you scrubbed up before we started. Oh, that makes sense, says the woman. Youre an anesthesiologist aren’t you? Yeah, says the man, a bit surprised. How did you know? The woman answers, Because I didn’t feel a thing.

PORNOGRAPHY- GOOD OR BAD

X rated movies or other material can have its pluses as well as minuses ,depending on how it is used. I come across so many youngsters, coming with request to increase sex power. I usually ask them, “To what level you want to increase your sex power?” Many come up with answers like ” As I saw that man in a particular movie” . I came across a young boy with non consummation of marriage . his wife’s demand was to have sex the way she saw it in a movie. The man in movie was performing in all acrobatic styles for at least 1 hour so first night first thing told to the boy was to last for at least 1 hr . No wonder the boy was scared to the extent that his poor penis never attempted to raise its head. To add salt to injury, she told everyone that the boy was impotent. The boy came to me for help ..

I requested him to bring his wife along in next visit. The first thing I enquired from his wife was” Can you jump from 3rd or 4th floor and continue running there after, as I saw a heroine doing that in a movie”?” She said- No, She can’t . “OK”, I said. ‘” Can you fight with 4-5 goons if you are attacked with an intention to harm you physically or sexually?,” I again asked. She said,-she was not sure but probably she can’t. I said ” You are right BECAUSE WHAT YOU SEE IN MOVIES IS A FICTION, INTENDED TO ENTERTAIN YOU” In real life, you can”t and shouldn’t try to copy them. Like bollywood or hollywood movies, the material in porn movies is meant to give you excitement for some time. The models performing the acts are carefully chosen and paid to perform certain acts so their motive to perform is money only but in real life, we indulge in sex to procreate or recreate. On my explanation, she understood the point and the poor boy could initiate his married life in true sense.

HOW TO IMPROVE TIME BEFORE YOU EJACULATE

  • Try to focus on the pleasure you are getting from what ever foreplay , not on the performance of your penis. Penises don’t like to be watched when they are aroused. The moment you shift attention away from penis towards the pleasure part, it will start working better
  • Try to be particular about the body hygiene in general and genitals in particular. Don’t let foul smell of tobacco, alcohol,gutka, or bad smelling mouth spoil the mood of your lady and expect her to lubricate generously in response to your advances. Similarly for ladies, brushing teeth , slipping in to neat, tidy and arousing set of clothes , not letting the mood of hubby spoiled by smell of kitchen left overs, baby urine etc. before going to bed will go a long way in GETTING IT UP nicely.
  • Don’t repeat the same routine of a hug for some seconds, kisses here and there , removing and moving in- finish. It will stop giving pleasure and lead to reduced sex derive. May be different positions, at different places ,in different situations ,at different times in day keep the fire burning.
  • Never forget to switch off the mobile phones , close the door properly and take things in your hands . Just enjoy the present moments, not worrying about the past or future

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